Following the passing of someone who was loved & appreciated by many, I’ve just had to evaluate myself & how I’ve been living my life.

Each day we are given is an amazing gift because nothing in life is guaranteed, absolutely nothing! We tend to focus on things that we are going to do, what we are going to achieve in the future & we forget to appreciate the now. The people who appreciate & love us now.

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If there was no tomorrow for us, what have we achieved? Whose life have impacted positively? How may opinions have we kept to ourselves? How much did we deprive ourselves, as we said next year or tomorrow? What legacy are we leaving?

May we not take life for granted, may we seize every opportunity that comes our way. May we have an attitude of gratitude, for love, health & each breath we take…

What’s stopping you from living your life to the fullest, with what you already have & where you are?

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#30DayAfriBlogger Day 2

Home is what you make it, I grew up in different homes, with different people who had different values. As Africans we have qualities, traditions & values that make us who we are, but I cherish my individuality more. I cannot speak of rules that have made me who I am today. For some have made me afraid, have broken me & have made me hold back. But I can confidently speak about where I am headed.

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I will speak of the 10 principles that will make my house a home & build my husband and children to be the best people they can be. Principles my children will pass on to their children & generations to come.

Love – what is a home without love, what is life without love? Our definition of love has been so tainted & adulterated. In my space love shall be given, fiercely & as often as possible. If my children never get to experience true love from another, they should be able to have experience it from me. 

Truth – need I explain more?

Loyalty – to ones self, to the family, to friends 

Passion – to be able to follow what we love & encourage, nurture and inspire the desire to be passionate about ones craft & dreams. 

Creativity – I am a creative and I would lose my purpose in an environment where there is no “creating”

Adventure – to love life by exploring and doing the radical. 

Communication – to have an open line of communication and be able to share all things good, great and difficult. 

Hard Work – one of the greatest gifts I would like to give to my own, all else may fail but hard work will always speak for itself. 

Patience – we all know how life humbles us at times by not granting us what we want or need. Patience is indeed a virtue & in my home patience shall prevail as all good & deserved things eventually come… to those who wait. 

Gratitude – for love, family & life each day. 

Tired of living…

Posted: September 2, 2017 in 30DayAfriBlogger
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And the #30DayAfriBlogger challenge begins…

Call me a rebel but I’ve never really liked being told what to do, so this challenge is not going to be a walk in the park. My blogging journey has been my form of release, as inconsistent as it is, it tells the story of my life. Very unpredictable, it’s hard to get comfortable in my shoes but I wouldn’t be anyone else.

I started my blog sitting by a bar sipping on a cocktail, today I start this challenge sitting in a hotel cafe facing a slice of cake & a cup of tea. After 23 years I’ve just realised I’ve never done this for myself. Just enjoy my own company in such and environment and write my thoughts away.

This is not the blog that will get you excited about life, its no the blog that will change the world or win an award. It’s just my release, the raw & honest me.

I feel that I’m a little bit older and don’t feel that need to explain or prove myself.

Today I cannot write chapters & express enthusiasm, because today I am tired…

Tired of scheming

Tired of dreaming

Tired of life… (maybe just a little)

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Posted: August 24, 2017 in Uncategorized

 So I recently got engaged and I realised that life has no manual, literally…

Because it was something that I wasn’t expecting, my reality has been rocked. All of a sudden I find myself stressing over things like roora and the wedding because that’s what people ask as soon as they see my ring. And I stammer through saying when the wedding will be & whether or not the person is invited… (Of which they are, well, according to them)

I’ve had to quickly pull myself out of the rut of thinking that I should automaticallly change. Simply because ‘ndaamukadzi wemunhu’. I trust I’m not the only person that is going through this. I fnd myself wondering if I should change the way I walk, talk, speak or think. But I’m the same person, I was a few weeks ago before I had a circle with diamonds on my finger. The mistake I’m trying not to make is putting pressure on myself to become someone I’m not. 

The other thing that happens is problems seem to escalate just because there is a certain prospect of marriage. It’s quite easy to think that my partner ‘aakundijairira’ or wants to take ownership because he has made his intentions clear that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Which couldn’t be more further from the truth, everything pretty much has stayed the same but seems different because of the sacred ‘ring’.

Formally introducing the husband to be to my great grandmother was the most hilarious thing because I had no idea of what to do and what to say. I didn’t know whether I had to kneel or take a sombre tone or be very casual about it. I have never witnessed anyone introducing their partner who has intentions of marrying them and I have no idea of how I’m going to manouver my way around this road. But that’s the beauty of life, you never know what to expect. 

At the end of the day I’m grateful, that I will be spending the rest of my life with my best friend. If it is true that marriage is just an extension of dating, then it’s going to be an interesting ride… I look forward to marriage, very much. It is important to me because it is important to my family. I am glad to make them proud, to some people it doesn’t matter but where I come from it’s a beautiful & important thing.  

One thing I’ve come to realize so far is your efforts will never be good enough, in a working environment there is a fine line between positive criticism & downright discouraging a person when they have done what has been asked of them & put so much effort. It gets very disturbing somewhere along the line it seems like the numbers are growing & showing positive results but self-worth is deteriorating at the same pace.  pexels-photo-189265

It’s a difficult place to be in where you thought you would be someplace else but you have to make it work where you are, so it makes sense in the long run. One thing that has kept me going so far is not losing what makes me happy & feel alive. My passion for dance, music and blogging, though I may not be as consistent as I would like to be, I won’t let go. That has never been the plan, so it won’t happen.

There is something therapeutic about keeping words inside & writing them instead, so many things get lost in translation even when you are face to face with someone. I’m just grateful that I have this platform and I’m not obligated to make sense lol.

 

Just glad I’m back right now… It’s about to get very interesting…

 

Pick Up The Pieces 

Posted: March 28, 2017 in Uncategorized


The shattered pieces of the dreams you held so dear. The broken walls of confidence you had taken years to construct. The fading vision that you swore you would never lose. The “you” you said you would never let go of… Now life has thrown its worst at you.

The devil is working overtime.

Pick up the pieces as you walk with feet covered with blisters.

Pick up the pieces as the cold bites at your bare skin.

Pick up the pieces with torn and scratched skin.

Pick up the pieces with your mental fatigue.

Pick up the pieces with bleeding hands that have cuts that run deep.

Pick up the pieces with an arched back that hurts with every move.

Pick up the pieces with the body that wants to give up.

Pick up the pieces with a spirit that stands strong.

Pick up the pieces with an attitude that refuses to lose.

Pick up the pieces with a humility only you understand.

Pick up the pieces with a strength you never thought you had.

Broken you are, Broken you will probably remain.

But just promise to pick up the pieces…

Pick up the pieces & keep moving.

 

Pick. Up. The. Pieces! 

Never Forget

Posted: March 27, 2017 in Uncategorized

Life has a way of making us forget what’s important, we become so busy and preoccupied that we forget the beauty of dreams, friends & family. Sometimes I feel like a leaf being tossed in this ocean we call life. Sometimes I disappear under water for so long I forget to fight to survive, I forget to stay afloat, I forget to continue.

It’s easy to hear motivational speeches from other people who have made it in life, at the back of my mind I’m saying “It’s easy for you to say because you are there in life”. But I realize that in as much as our struggles are different, we all have them. And how we handle them is what makes us very different.

Never forget how far you have come, most importantly the successes, smiles and laughs along the way. It’s easy to focus on the bad because the bad easily overshadows the good. May one bad decision or action never sway you to the point that you forget how far you have come. What you have right now is the pinnacle of your success. This is the oldest you will ever be, this may be your last day on earth & may you be grateful for what you have achieved. May we all strive to be better but at the same time be happy and content with what is already there.

Never forget your family & friends. Never forget the people that have challenged you to become a better person. Appreciate those that criticize you, those that make you actually ponder on whether you are sure of the direction you are taking with your life. People that make you defend your beliefs and stand up for what you believe in. What is a winner without challenges? A fighter without an opponent? Where is the victory without the war? Never ever forget to fight!

Never forget the dream, the one thing you came into the world clenching in your tiny fists. The one thing that sets you apart from everyone else on earth. Never ever forget your purpose, no matter how mediocre it seems. You have your unique role to play on mother earth, the world is your stage. Give us the performance of a lifetime!

Never ever forget that you count, you matter, you are beautiful, you are talented, you are gifted, you are amazing, you are intelligent, you are important, you can never ever be replaced.

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